Published:
07/18/2011 03:05pm
12 Steps To Personal Success
12 Steps To Personal Success
Are you still living in the past, the past of mistakes, sadness and if- onlys? Is negative thinking holding you back from a joyful and abundant future? To look at the past, and say what if I did that instead is not only a waste of time, it is a waste of energy. You cannot bring new energy or life into the present if you are still focused on the past. A positive and a negative will cancel each other out. First, you need to look at the past issue, and name it.
Let’s use Apathy as an example. Apathy is defined as a lack of interest, lethargy or laziness. This at one time or another may affect some of you; however, it should not overtake your life. Decide that Apathy is no longer useful to keep, reclaim your power (power that keeps this Apathy alive) and the energy you devoted to Apathy; begin to realize that once you start reclaiming your power, you can devote new energy to what you really want.
1. Make a commitment to transform your life into what you want it to be. The commitment comes first. Without commitment, you have nothing.
The Power of Commitment! - "Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now". - J. W. von Goethe
2. Stop doing what no longer works. Monitor your daily activities. If something does not make you happy, or give you joy, eliminate it from your life. This action requires due diligence of each and every moment of your life. Always ask the question, “Is this what I really want to do?” If not, figure out a method to either transform or remove it from your life. Take notes throughout the day to determine what it is that is preventing you from being happy and successful.
3. Pay attention to your thoughts. Most times people who are in struggle think in a negative way, i.e., they become disappointed in what is not going their way, as opposed to saying, Hmmm, maybe I can learn something from this. Monitor these thoughts until you get a handle on your personal progress.
4. Stop judging anything. Once you judge anything as good or bad, you own it. You get to carry your judgments with you all the time. These judgments become a burden; you are left without the energy to go for what you want. Just watch how the world is. Choose to participate or not, however, the best thing to do is be detached from what is going on ‘out there’. It takes practice, so start practicing.
5. Stop blaming others for anything. Live your own life in the way that works for you. If you choose to compromise your life, to give up your ideals for someone or something else, you will then start blaming the other person or thing and be left with little or no energy to take care of yourself. What happens now or what happened in the past is a result of choice, either conscious or unconscious. Be responsible for the choices you make; no one can choose for you. If you choose to do something or be around certain people, and these situations are not supportive of the life you want to live, then know going in, that this is a choice, if only for a short period of time.
6. Change your language. Stop arguing with people about useless things. If someone instigates an argument with you, think a little first, and then start by saying “Hmmm, interesting.” In the meantime, decide if this argument is worth the energy of it staying in your head and preventing you from moving forward towards a more positive