Published:
12/21/2012 06:41pm
The FRITZ Movement
Sometimes your experiences are just yours… not meant to be shared with the world. At other times, those experiences NEED to be shared so there can be some “movement” toward a more positive world! I believe this to be the case with my 412 dates in just over five years… with the writing of Kissing Frogs: Tall Tales and Insights From the Dating Pond. I have found so many people more than slightly interested in what has begun…. a movement to a new way of dating!
Recent book signings for my book, Kissing Frogs- Tall Tales and Insights from the Dating Pond have opened the floodgates for women and men to share insights from their dating ponds. Here are just a few stories from those attending the September 24. 2012 wine,dine and sign event at the Cove Trattoria in Scottsdale, AZ. These stories, just like my own, motivated me to start the Fritz Movement, where I challenge fellow daters to BE REAL- and that equates to NO B.S. for 30 days. In support of the FRITZ Movement, daters wear a green “F” silly bandz around their wrist to remind them to be real, no B.S.
Real Relationships at Any Age…
A beautiful 73 year old woman approached my signing table with class and confidence as she shared this story with me: “Kris, when I was 50, I became a flight attendant and I was having a lot of fun. At 60, things were going even better. But 2 years ago, in my 70’s I met the love of my life. He is the same age as me: successful, handsome, and we share the same interests. At first, I thought we were “too” matched that I sought out psychological counseling. And after two visits, the counselor reiterated that we had the perfect match. And the great thing is that we are so happy!”
Kris thoughts: Wow, now if that does not inspire you, what can? Sue proves that a woman does not have to be a certain age to meet her life partner. She also reminded me of this great lesson: there was no struggle in meeting her man- no head games- no power struggles. She even thought – because they were so well-matched – that was actually going to be an obstacle. Now, that is hopeful! Remember… REAL and NO B.S. WINS EVERY TIME.
A Bit of Decorum, Please…
One mother shared with me about her son’s recent exposure to the dating pond. Being a successful, 45 year old recent divorcee, he had no idea what to anticipate in the dating pond. She shared with me that her son was dating and finding more than a comfortable number of women, who after the first date would send a “full nude” picture of themselves to his phone. His ex-wife was very religious, so the “new woman” has – as he has shared with his mother – proven to take a heavy toll on his healthy view of dating
Kris thoughts: Are you kidding me? What is wrong with this picture? Why would women want to share their naked bodies on a cell phone with a man with whom they just had one date? And above all, do they not consider that now some relatively unknown guy has a photo of their naked body on his cell phone to share with his friends or, heaven forbid, his own mother? GOOD GRIEF… Keep your clothes on and you may just get a second date.
Keep it REAL, Sista….
Jesse is new to internet dating. He is in his mid-forties, and recently out of a long term relationship thought he would try PlentyofFish.com. He struck up a good “online” conversation with Pam, age 39. They agreed to meet at Starbucks at 11 AM. Jesse was prompt and scoured the room looking for the Pam he know from her online photos. He continued to scan the room for 5 more minutes and he received a tap on his shoulder. He turned around to see someone he never saw before. It was Pam – but… she had used her friends’ photo online to hook, line and sinker Jesse into meeting her in person. Pam looked nothing like her friend, and when Jesse asked her why she would use her friends’ photo, she retorted, “I thought you would meet me and just fall in love with the real me.”
Kris thoughts: MISREPRESENTATION! If you are going to be online have the guts to be the REAL YOU. That means
