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Kim Malchuk

Kim Malchuk considers herself an ordinary woman, a storyteller, a motivational coach/speaker. When cancer took her husband, Mel, during the height of their romance, Kim made a choice to keep ‘Tasting the Rain’ despite her overwhelming loss. She then embarked on a poignant, soul-searching journey...

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02/22/2011 12:37pm
A Tube of Toothpaste

This is not going to be a blog on oral hygiene; however, my message and toothpaste share something in common for this blog. We brush our teeth at least twice a day so that our teeth remain healthy. Well, here is something to think about the next time you squeeze out the contents from your tube of toothpaste.

I had a conversation with a friend who made a funny about how similar our mothers were. She made an off-the-cuff remark about how she will never understand why her mother, like mine, was so verbally abusive to her when growing up. Don’t worry, she has forgiven but she still wonders why? I gave my friend a ‘Kiminition’ on how I acknowledged and processed that verbal abuse I received from my mother. I said, ‘Words flow out of mouths like the gel from a tube of toothpaste. Once it is out there is no taking or putting it back. I would wonder as a young teenager, where was the rationale of her words coming from? Why did my mother have so little regard for me?’

It was not until I reached adulthood that I was able to forgive my mother for her hurtful words. You see, I always knew that I was better than what she said I was. I knew that I would make something of myself one day whether she believed in me or not. When I came to that realization I was able to stop caring about what she thought of me. When her continuous verbal abuse would be shot in my direction, I simply chose not to listen or fight back when she would try to damage the spirit within me.

It is important to know who YOU are and not allow another to tell YOU otherwise. We all have to live with the consequences of our words and actions. I did not have to yell or beat up on my mother’s soul. She was doing that all on her own every time she looked into the mirror.
Be careful how much toothpaste you squeeze out because once it’s out you can make one hell of a mess trying to put it back in.


self-worth, postive mindset, spirit, hurtful words, self-discovery, self-esteem, choices, victim
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