I Suck at Coaching and Here's Why
Back in 2012 I went through a period of struggling with fear. My fear paralyzed me so much that I was afraid to make a wrong decision so I made no decision at all. As a result, my six-figure Virtual Assistant Business dwindled away to nothing. With the help of an NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Coach I was able to move past my fear, restart my business and within 6 months I was back on top.
While working in my business I began to notice my clients were having the same kinds of issues with fear and those fears were holding them back. I worked with many of them to move past their roadblocks of fear and created a solid strategy and plan of action so they could stay on course.
With the recommendation of a client I began working with her business coach. That business coach informed me I should become a business coach / mentor to women entrepreneurs due to the work I was doing with my clients at that time. I did enjoy helping my clients overcome obstacles not to mention strategic planning is my thing, but more importantly, when a millionaire business coach says you should become a coach, you listen or so I thought
. I went on to receive an NLP Practitioner Certification, because a Certified Business Coach and started working with clients right way as a business coach. I quickly realized coaching was not for me. Here's why... Coaching was like watching paint dry, it was slow and I didn't feel very effective.
From my coaching sessions with clients I knew immediately what their challenges were and why many of them were stuck and not moving forward in their businesses. But as a coach, I'm suppose to allow the client to come to those realizations. After each session I found myself creating a personalized strategy and plan of actions for each client because I needed to get them out of my head.
During this time I had the opportunity to work with a Strengths Finder Coach Dr. Lisa Matthews and after taking the strengths finder test I learned my top five strengths which are: 1. Strategy 2. Positive 3. Relator 4. Activator and 5. Communicator.
I began to use my top five strengths while working with my clients. We did more strategy, planning and implementation, than coaching. As a result, my clients were taking action and moving forward in their businesses.
I knew what I was doing was not coaching and I did not feel right labeling it as such. To be completely honest, I don't like labels / titles at all but I understand why we use them. So if I had to put a label or title on what I do, it would be Small Business Strategist.
I respect the art of coaching because when it's done correctly coaching is and can be very effective. When I needed it most coaching really worked for me. Although coaching has become a heavily populated market, there are still some really great coaches out there and I have worked with a few of them. However; I will admit I am not one of them. I have coined myself as 'The UN-Coach'.
I thrive on strategy, planning and taking action which makes me an awesome Business Strategist.
Many of my clients have worked with coaches one on one and in group coaching programs, but did not receive the success they desired. Coaching is great if you are going to do the work and take action! However, some people work better when they have a well defined strategy and plan of action created for them.
It's all about knowing what you want and need.
If you've gone through one on one coaching or a group coaching program, but are not where you would like to be in your business, try working with a business strategist. If you would like to learn more about working with me, feel free to schedule a FREE CLARITY SESSION
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